No Deep Dives by FlexMami

i rebuke passive aggression

WHAT THE HECK IS GOING ON!!! I'm tempted to say it's because Mars moved out of witty and superficial Gemini, into sensitive and self protective Cancer.
This episode brings me to the eternal question: does passive aggression ever get the job done? From a surreal confrontation with strangers demanding silence by the river to deep dives into emotional intelligence, we’re exploring how our demons often sneak up on us sideways. Is passive aggression a form of self-protection, or just emotional avoidance? And how does the astrological vibe of Mars in Cancer intensify this sneaky behavior?
Along the way, I reflect on lessons from yoga, breathwork, and astrology, as we unpack how to turn our emotional triggers into conscious action instead of passive stand-offs. Plus, we explore philosophical insights from the Bhagavad Gita and how it challenges us to reflect on the deeper distinction between self-awareness and self-knowledge.
We also break down how over-intellectualizing our emotions can lead to dissociation, particularly during yoga and other mindfulness practices. We’re drawing from ancient philosophy, yoga insights, and that cosmic question, “Is it better to speak or to die?” Tune in for a mix of wit, wisdom, and just the right amount of chaos. Rate five stars—don’t make me ask twice! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Miss you!
 
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TIMESTAMPS
00:00 hi am i better now?
00:24 pass-agg river confrontation
08:51 mars is in cancer!!!
15:35 emotional processing update
27:42 self awareness vs. self knowledge
30:49 i fear discipline works
 

you're wrong about you (🎙: Jordan Stacey)

AHHH! WE HAVE DONE IT AGAIN. Genius insights, but this time with philosopher and TikTok creator Jordan Stacey (@jordstac). Despite battling a scratchy throat, we explore Jordan's fascinating journey from science enthusiast to spiritual seeker and unpack how those two worlds collide in unexpected ways.
We discuss the dichotomy between nakedness and mess when revealing our vulnerabilities and reflect on how dreams can be a tool for subconscious processing.
Together, we critique the limitations of short-form content in building genuine empathy, diving into how the internet's binary narratives fall short of replicating the depth of real-life interactions.
🪐 How studying science ironically led to a spiritual awakening
🪐 The tug-of-war between creativity and aesthetics
🪐 Why dreams might hold the key to subconscious processing
🪐 The anxiety trap of constantly evolving your self-concept
🪐 The struggle between leading with your nakedness vs. your mess
🪐 How short-form content might be killing real empathy
🪐 Why real-world chaos beats curated online peace
We emphasize the importance of embracing chaos and unpredictability in a world obsessed with curated peace. Tap in for a conversation that’s full of sharp insights, deep laughs, and more questions than answers. Rate five stars—don’t make me ask twice! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Miss you!
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Jordan's Podcast
 
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TIMESTAMPS
00:00 hi, missed you
01:33 science to spirituality pipeline
07:06 creativity is spirituality
13:14 challenging self concept
18:23 dreams for subconscious processing
34:04 masking & personal intimacy
34:47 high school social experiments
35:13 racism
36:11 the layers of friendship
38:16 pursuing knowledge is a xxxx
54:11 empathy, sympathy, and pity
01:03:05 online vs irl 
01:06:39 bye!!

blink twice if i'm in danger

In this episode, I dive into the shifting nature of time and how novelty (or lack thereof) impacts our perception of it. From the thrill of trying new things and expanding life’s horizons, to the monotony of routine that makes the days blur together, we explore how to break free of that Groundhog Day feeling. I also touch on the double-edged sword of celebrity gossip, over-empathizing with Bruno Mars, and the wild ride of Blink Twice, Zoe Kravitz’s unsettling new film. Plus, I reflect on the subtle manipulation tactics in wellness spaces that can disarm even the most self-aware among us. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Miss you!
 
TIMESTAMPS
00:00 hi sweetie pie
01:08 slutty for yerba mate
03:42 time perception paradox
06:58 celeb culture monsense
10:00 movie review for 'blink twice'
19:07 wellness spaces and informed consent
21:25 the odd water roleplay activity
24:05 authority and consent
24:25 mama, mami and baby
26:17 cult focused
30:41 fear vs danger
37:54 false modesty and manipulation
 

dissociating during yoga (dots connect)

In this episode, I dive into the chaos of balancing life’s highs and lows—from the perfect alignment of life’s stepping stones to the draining effects of my period. We explore how I’m using my birth chart as a practical guide (not just an excuse for bad behaviour) and my revelation during an intense Iyengar yoga session in Bali about staying present with discomfort instead of dissociating. 
We also explore the sneaky ways social media mimics a casino, hooking us into endless scrolling for that next dopamine hit. And then when things couldn’t get weirder, I got hit with a $1,715 jury duty fine (in a state I don’t live in)?? HELP!! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Miss you!!
 
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TIMESTAMPS
00:00 hi sweetie pie
00:40 I'm a cartographer
02:19 astrological experiments
04:48 iyengar yoga ... why did you warn me
06:50 ok feeling emotions again
14:46 digital detoxing?
17:25 analog vs virtual
21:36 always processing
34:11 see you next week

beef with little red riding hood

Is this just what the Algorithm Overloads ordered? Another high-energy episode exploring the cultural underpinnings of 'Little Red Riding Hood,' and the socialisation of children (prompted by me, Flex, wearing a red veil to yoga). Learn about the weird origin of children's literature and unlock new trauma responses (long story).
Plus, get a taste of Chinese metaphysics, (we *just* entered a new 20 year period!!). This episode is a must-listen if you love deep, analytical yet playful discussions! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Miss you!!
P.S: This episode was recorded during Mercury Retrograde in Virgo. Forgive me if I misspeak or misquote xoxo.
P.P.S: WE FOUND A NEW PODCAST EDITOR!!
 
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TIMESTAMPS
00:00 Hi!!!!
01:44 blame it on the bean juice (soda)
02:08 daily routine epiphany
05:52 a trip down (someone else's) memory lane
08:49 remember little red riding hood?
13:09 wait ... what's the moral here?
23:25 NEW (20 YEAR) ERA UNLOCKED
26:52 hotties research Chinese metaphysics
35:04 more about period nine
38:42 bye bye bye bye

why am i studying counselling

I played '7 Things' by Miley Cyrus and felt like I REALLY HEARD IT FOR THE FIRST TIME. Shout out to transforming mental dialogue. In this episode we're doing what we do best: asking questions to ask more questions.I'll be attempting to ask the age old question: "why are you studying counselling?", then take you through some of the insights. Like why asking why is usually the wrong question to ask (excuse ME??), person-centered therapy, paraphrasing, Carl Rogers' unconditional positive regard, and the challenge of maintaining empathy without enabling. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Miss you dearly!! Bye for now! 💖
 
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TIMESTAMPS
01:06 Stop Asking Why (*scary*)
02:20 Ok but wHY THOUGH?
03:49 The Art of Paraphrasing
07:43 Person-Centered Therapy (so sexy)
10:06 Unconditional Positive Regard (processing tbh)
11:29 Ethical Dilemmas in Counseling
12:34 The Need for Practical Skills in Conflict Resolution
14:41 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
 

i know who ended chivalry

Is it possible for our brainwaves to sync up with people we like? 🧠 Or how many virtual hangouts it takes to match a real-life four-hour dinner? 🍽️ We'll get into the nitty-gritty of why technology can't quite replace face-to-face interactions (I discovered this during my VOGUE CODES panel: Technocopia).
Plus, let’s clear the air on my Instagram sermon about the supposed death of chivalry – hint: it might not be feminism’s fault. 💡 I also take you through some historical detours, like the concept of courtly love. Expect some enlightening exchanges about the ever-evolving social norms and how patriarchy is like a house with serious structural issues – yep, it’s leaking!  ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Miss you dearly!! Bye for now! 💖
 
IMPORTANT LINKS
https://www.vogue.com.au/vogue-codes/news/lessons-from-the-vogue-codes-2024-summit/image-gallery/1486dcbfe6b33350025d6f011a8001ac
https://www.instagram.com/p/C720M1ihtzj/?img_index=1
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/brain-waves-synchronize-when-people-interact/
 
DIVE DEEPER
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TIMESTAMPS
00:11 Natural High?01:08 Synchrony Is Sexy (and REAL!)03:02 VOGUE Codes Panel Gossip03:59 Virtual vs. Physical Connections15:09 The PR Problem of Modern Relationships21:31 Patriarchy, Feminism, and the Struggle for Power26:52 Closing Thoughts: Patriarchy's Cracks and Future30:08 The Evolution of Chivalry and Romance

your fave witch's fave witch (Jaliessa Sipress)

If you like someone's content, you can invite them to come onto your podcast and chat. On this episode of No Deep Dives, I chop it up with Jaliessa Sipress – Astrology, Wizard and MossPerson™️ about the pitfalls of being alive, the beauty of the birth chart, the joy of internet mutuals and the reality of practising esotericism.
 
IMPORTANT LINKS
https://www.instagram.com/jaliessasipress/?hl=en
https://www.instagram.com/edgewalkerpod/?hl=en
 
DIVE DEEPER
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TIMESTAMPS
00:00 Introduction00:27 Hotties Love Yapping01:02 Meet Jaliessa Sipress01:53 MossPerson Meets MistPerson04:10 Bring Aquaintances Back08:47 Astrology is NOT Personality Typing15:06 Pop Astrology vs. Traditional Astrology24:07 How To Actually Use Astrology26:21 Flex's Birthchart29:15 Should We Be Scared Of AI?33:59 The Hero's Journey and Fool's Journey46:01 The Complexity of Astrology and Identity47:24 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

dopamine constipation

The more you watch people think without adding thoughts, the harder it is to remember that you also need to think to have thoughts? And other thoughts that are crystallising in real time, like, did a week of apples and peanut butter cause my constipation?
 
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TIMESTAMPS
00:00 Introduction and Hiatus Explanation01:14 Content Consumption Danger!!04:51 Is Conversation An Art?16:03 Dopamine and Pleasure-Pain Balance19:08 The Future of Human Connection23:53 Conclusion

social portion control (friendship sustainability)

The wordsmith yapper jumped out. In this episode we're talking about friendship sustainability and social portion control. I would elaborate but that's what the podcast is for.
 
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IMPORTANT LINKS
ReFlex Conversation Cards https://shopflexmami.com/
Friendship Expert https://www.tiktok.com/@thefriendshipexpert?lang=en
 
TIMESTAMPS
00:00 Welcome to No Deep Dives
00:51 Moral Dilemma
03:31 Social Portion Control
05:36 Friendship Formula
13:02 Sustaining Friendships
17:41 In Conclusion
 
In this episode of 'No Deep Dives',  Flex dives into friendship sustainability (reduce, reuse, recycle,) and concept she termed 'social portion control'. Flex explores the nuances of enjoyment in eating, posing thought-provoking questions about preferences in the act of chewing vs. swallowing food, and relating these to broader themes of pleasure and consumption in life.
The concept of 'social portion control' is elaborated as an indicator of healthy relationships, where mutual understanding and reciprocity are key. The podcast also touches on the complexities of sustaining friendships, the role of expectations in relationship dynamics, and the challenges of friendship breakdowns.
Flex concludes with an innovative approach to friendship, suggesting a 'reduce, reuse, recycle' strategy for building and maintaining relationships, emphasizing a sustainable approach to social connections.